Just after 10pm, the news that was expected for years finally came. It has been over a decade since the initial diagnosis. Seems like forever, doesn’t it? Every year, there was news…rarely ever good news. The cancer was here and now it is there. The chemo is not working. The radiation is not working. Then there was hope and then it was dashed. A roller coaster for well over 10 years. So this day should not have been any surprise. But then there was a blood clot. A blood cot. How is that for an ironic twist? The man lived with cancer for over 10 years only to be taken to his bed by a blood clot. One that they could not get to because of the cancer. Yeah…Was it the blood clot? Was it the cancer? Truth is, it was probably both. Now it does not matter, my uncle is gone. Even though I knew this day was coming, it doesn’t make it any easier. And for the first time, I really don’t know what I should say. What do you say to your dad whom just lost his brother? Your grandpa who is watching is wife fade away and now has to bury his son? Parents aren’t supposed to bury children, right? So what do you say? I honestly do not know.
Tears are light, not because I do not care. I do care. I am upset, but I knew the day was coming. I also know this is the second uncle in just under two months that I have to say goodbye to. Not to mention all the other BS that life keeps throwing at me. I’m tired. I’m numb and I’m at a loss for all the things that I’m supposed to say. For how I am supposed to be reacting. Who, or what, determines that anyway?The only thing that I know…one of the strongest men I know has finally closed his eyes for the last time. He no longer has to deal with the pain that came with his daily routine. He can rest. So go rest high on that mountain, Uncle Mark. You have fought long and hard. You lived long past what they said you would. You have earned the right to rest, but thank you for fighting as hard as you did and for as long as you did. You are loved. You are missed, but rest. It is time.
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