Sometimes I just need to pull off to the side of the road and refocus. I need to just gather my thoughts and just let the moment come to me. That is what I did the day that I took this picture. I decided I was just going to do it. Just stop, just focus, and not try to make the moment….just let it come.
I had to do that again today in a more metaphorical kind of way.
As most know, I did a photo shoot last Saturday and if you read my last blog…you know it was a “high level learning” experience. Unfortunately, it does not cease to be so. I could harp on the negative about it, but the truth is….it is a learning experience and so I’m going to take it and grow with it.
I had never given much thought to having to turn away a client. I never thought that I’d be in a position where I could or even should. I really should have known better, because some personalities just do not work together. Even if it seems like they “meld”….those “melds” can melt. They can melt at an alarmingly fast rate. That is what has happened here. So, I’ve had to pull off to the side of the road and just let it come to me. Come to me that some bridges should not be crossed again.
I am a very easy-going person. I do not get offended. I do not tend to get angry. I get mad, but it is usually only briefly. I tend to brush a lot of things off. I do not carry grudges and I just do not waste my time with things of that nature. I’m the type of person that it takes a lot, and I mean A LOT, to push to me to a place where I’m willing to lower my “tact” filter and tell you exactly what I think….with the words that my mind wants to use. I hate getting to that point and if I have been pushed to that point….the bridge needs to burn.
While “sitting on the side of the road,” I realized….there are just some less than desirable decisions I’m going to have to make. Not just for the sake of my business, but for me as well.
I’m a very accommodating person and I give my clients (and people in my life) my all. I do the best in my current abilities and I do the best with what I have. I am precise, I am thorough, and I’m honest. I’m also realizing that no matter what, I’m not going to be able to please everyone no matter how good the pictures might be. When people are used to certain things and they have to change…it’s going to be harder to satisfy them. That’s okay. It is also okay….for them to keep on looking for a more suitable alternative.
I don’t do complicated. I don’t do frustrating. I do not do unnecessary and I don’t like to waste my time. I do balanced. I do peaceful. I do honest. I do things that “make sense”. I understand when bad experiences make one cautious, but I don’t do situations where I am treated badly because of those experiences. We all have our own roads. Some are much smoother than others, but before we come to an intersection….we should pull off to the side of the road and make sure that our focus and our “path” is right for that road.
I mean let’s face it…. Sunday drivers are not going to be doing their balance any good if they get on the interstate and have to do 70. Some roads just shouldn’t be traveled and all roads might require that moment where we need to just pull off to the side for a minute. At the end of the day….as long as we’re balanced with ourselves, at peace with ourselves….that’s okay.
Montana Rose Photography